Self

"To thine own self be true"
--Hamlet


Better to have a full understanding of yourself than to have others fully understand you.(知己知彼，百战百胜）And also using what I had heard from others a few years back, humans are like porcupines, they tend to want others to fully understand them but the more they try to get close to each other, the more they prick each other, getting hurt in the process. One of my friends interpreted it as as humans usually thought that others understand them well, they thought that they could say whatever they think without considering others' feelings, forgetting that others also have emotions and their own emotional scars too,there's a limit to what one can say.

Maybe that is also one of the reasons why people tend to ask for favours with those they know, believing that they have the ability to do so, and believed that they would not reject them, always saying stuff alone these lines 'I know that you are a very good person...', '以我们那么多年的交情...’. However, they forgot to consider their 'friends' position in the matter, whether they are putting them in an awakward position, 让他们进退两难。I have seen so many such cases that I have lost count and I'm just only 20 years old, no, have not even reach the age of 20. Does it hurt so much to consider others' position and determine whether their 'favours' are reasonable or not? Does it hurt to pause and think before one speaks, curbing their own desire to reach their goal and think rationally first? Going back to the first line, usually if one understand how one's emotions and thoughts work, one would be able to stop oneself from making such moves. Secondly, negatively, extremely negatively, in the world that I know, there can be betrayal and backstabbing when one least expected it. So it is 'wise'--I know that many would disagree strongly with me, to not leak out too much about oneself, as one may not know when it would be used against one. However, of cause, this is an extreme measure and it would cause one to become a loner. Maybe this is one of the reasons for one to become anti-social.


Usually the more one seems to be strong, the stronger the impact of the fall one feels. When they 'fall' or, using the more commonly uttered phrase, 'hit the bottom/pit', they not only hit the ground hard but they also usually tend to 'bite the dirt'. It maybe that they are as sensitive as others but they held back causing them to 'collect' the hurt feelings, piling them up. So when they finally collapse, the emotion is being magnified a few times. It may also be as they themselves are more sensitive than others, they put up a shield to block it off, and in some rare cases, I guess, they are so successful that they appear to be even stronger than others. Hence, when those things which hurt them are able to make their way through the shield, it hit them really hard. Just remember that no matter how one seems to be strong and 'steely', they are humans, living things, who bleed like the rest and have emotions.